Research Paper By Kusha Kalra
(Life Coaching, INDIA)
Look well to this day, For it and it alone is life. In its brief course lay all the essence of your existence. The glory of growth. The Satisfaction of Achievement. The Splendour of Beauty. For yesterday is but a dream And tomorrow is but a vision. But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Today I complete one year with ICA. As I look back and reflect on how it all started, I see different shades of myself getting displayed in my mind. It all started by a man who introduced me to coaching, and how it could help me transform and look within myself for my unanswered questions. As I started doing more research on the internet, my inclination converted into fascination.
At that moment, I realized that at the end of the day all that matters is ME. My peace of mind, my hearts desires, my soul reflecting ME. While I continued my research, attended seminars on Coaching, I decided I wanted to go ahead with it. I had made up my mind. The urge and curiosity was so strong that it had to be “the next step towards my Self Development”. As I mentioned earlier, I am so much fond of myself and my heart and I always listen to my heart…so Coaching was my new Crush, and I wanted it to be a part of my life..
September 2011, I got myself registered. Considering that I am a single parent, I was fully aware of the financial responsibility towards my child getting diverted towards coaching fees. But I had made an agreement with myself and the action had to follow. The voice inside me said that “this is for me to become better than myself”
Once in it, my crush was all gone. This was because the level of excitement reduced and faded in my hectic working hours at my job. Yes, I am a Sales Trainer. I train people on how to sell dreams and how to make them come TRUE with the help of Insurance. As my job continued to be first priority, my lack of knowledge and fear on how to go about doing tele classes made me stay away from it for almost 3 months. In January 2012, I actually started my classes, learnt how to use Skype, match timings with clients across the globe and plunged into the World of Coaching – ICA
I did not know how and when the addiction of coaching struck me, and it increased month on month. Sessions with my coach, looking for clients on the forum, having troubles with matching times, juggling between my job, responsibility of my son, and not to forget ME, and my hearts desires to be able to find answers to doubts within myself. I started coaching for myself but when I attended the online classes, everybody was talking as if they were already coaches, and discussing issues on how to handle clients. I used to think, I was the client and I wanted to coach myself, find answers for myself and then pick up a client. That is how I took small steps, and my real journey began within myself. The realisation of all the powers and strengths in me, realisations of self created doubts which were actually nowhere existing in my actions, realisation that I could make a better person of myself just by being Me and realising how coaching could actually help me make a living in the future and spend more quality time with my son.
All these points got reflected when I started coaching clients. The magic had BEGUN. Coaching is a two-way process. While you are helping your client find answers to their questions, you are also getting answers from within yourself that only YOU can hear and resonate with. I noticed that my coach and my clients had some of the attributes or qualities like mine and so we could really get along well.
As I went through this transition, I became more controlled with Me. Controlled with my thoughts, aware about my actions and most importantly what my heart wanted to do.
And that’s when on 1st July I launched my website – http://happylives.in
I realized how I could use my coaching competencies to influence others who were going through different phases of their lives, looking for answers from others and not reflecting within. I want to spread the message of happiness to everybody because at the end all that matters is what makes you and your heart happy!!!
Coaching has given me new dimensions of living life for myself and helping others also to do so. I have started building my network…using my strengths and coaching competencies that I have got through ICA. I feel proud to be able to coach myself and would keep it going for the rest of my life as I move ahead wishing happiness to one and all.
P.S – guess what, my crush has become the Love of my Life now, as I love myself more…I love being Me
Wishing Happiness Always
Kusha Kalra