VARIOUS COMPLEXITIES OF LIFE:
- Work
- Relationship
- Emotional
- Environmental
- Behavioral
Factors that complicate the life are many; fear of uncertainty, various underlying beliefs, low and high self- esteem, lack of responsibility and many more.
All the above complexities have many factors so for coaches if they can simplify these complexities by applying the above stated four laws it is easier for the coach to proceed.
Let’s see one example
This is the personal story of my Peer Coach Mr. VS Kumar. I acknowledge him for letting me share his story as Emotional Complexity.
According to him:
In 2009 , Mid of October , I volunteered to head sales of the Chronic Division in my organization. The challenges were many and we were new to the therapeutic segment which works in fierce environment. The metric were not up to the mark and eventually the proprietor has appointed a new CEO to re-engineer the division. In this process new sales head was appointed and I was shifted to training from the Hard Core sale .
To me, having 25 years of meritorious selling career , this event took me to the zone of SIGNIFICANCE . I was more Judgmental, exhibiting my inner angry through disrespect, indifference and lack of commitment, low energy , inactions. Could not move forward a bit .
This the time , I enrolled myself to ICA program and got the insight and Importance of Coaching.
Now seeing this, there may be many factors that can lead to this emotional complexity such as fear of uncertainty, being judgmental, underlying beliefs.
By applying laws of simplification, we as coaches can find out which emotional factor is to be dealt first.
- Collect all the factors at one place.
- Choose the factor that is in front seen
- Work on it. Keep the other factors aside.
- Organize the first factor then move on to the next.
Powerful questions that were asked by other coaches to Kumar:
- Is it an end of Kumar?
- How I feel and behave when I am in the zone of Significance?
- What is the real issue for my inactions?
- I am I committed to achieving what I really want to achieve?
- How I acknowledge my own progress?
- What structures that I can create?
- How I feel in the Zone of Lightness?
The tools that applied were:
- Emotional delayering,
- Reframing perspectives ,
- Visualization
- creating structures
- Joint accountability
- Celebrations of small wins
In this example we have seen what coaches did was they applied four laws of simplification. They worked on factors one by one as follows
- Being judgemental
- Fear Of Uncertainty
- Underlying beliefs
Once the client is clear, it is easier for the client to visualize, create structures and take a step forward and celebrate.
I think this is a powerful tool which coaches can use to simplify any complex situations for their clients. Then, when coaches are clear in their step forward, the process of coaching will be simpler and smooth.
Acknowledgement:
Research by Leo Babuta , Mr VS Kumar ICA Student (Mumbai India)
SIMPLE THINGS, SIMPLE LIFE BRINGS CLARITY , LIGHTNESS AND ENERGY
As you simplify your lives, the laws of universe will be simpler, solitude will not be solitude, and poverty will not be poverty nor weakness , weakness .
Henry David