Coaching Application
As a coach, Cruly Martin, says o
Our job is to close the gap between thinking about doing and actually doing.
It‘s valuable to consider the
OUT LOUD approach when helping clients to DEFINE and REFINE (Realization coaching model) what they want to acheive.
In K.’s case, she knows that keeping silent does not help her to acoomplish her ambitions but it is not an easy step for her. How can we support the client in finding courage to say it OUT LOUD?
Strategy to support a client with saying OUT LOUD :
1) Address the fears – Help them to figure out where they are with fears.
2) Address underlying beliefs – Help them to figure out how they are currently protecting themselves form vulnerability.
3) Create a shift in Perspective
What if you had unlimited courage and knew you could not fail, what actions would you take?
Where do you want to be braver?
4) Let them dream.
What is your biggest dream?
We have to be attentive that speaking out is good, but it’s not for everyone. Not all of us like to use our vocal cords when expressing ourselves. Some of us are more reflective, have other means of communication. There are numerous ways of making sense of the stuff inside us-writing, drawing, painting, making music, signing. It’s about expressing yourself to yourself and to the world. It’s formulating your ideas, expressing your creativity in whatever way makes sense to you.
5) Mindfulness is a good place to start.
Helping the client practice being aware of the present, of our thoughts, feelings and emotions.
6) Practice gratitude and self-kindness.
Be grateful for what you have and share your gratitude with others. Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail or feel pain rather than flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.
As every coaching journey has its uniqueness this tool may be one of many tools we can utilize in our coaching process.
Reflection
- What does it feel like when you keep silent?
- What does being seen mean to you?
- Think about a situation when you decided to say it out loud. What led to that action?
- In what context do you notice yourself becoming courageous?
- What techniques can you develop to feed your courage?
- What gives you the courage?
- What does being vulnerable by saying out loud bring to you?
…putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of feeling hurt. But…I can honestly say that nothing is uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as believing that I’m standing on the outside of my life looking in and wondering what it would be like if I had the courage to SHOW UP and let myself be seen. Brené Brown
References:
Brown, Brené. (2012) Daring Greatly – How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent and lead. London, The Penguin Group.