Take the habit of setting an intention when you start any activities in your day – it can be just to enjoy the present moment, to learn something, to get some clarity, to act with mindfulness…
By practicing “living with intention”, you will free yourself of trying to fulfil your expectations. You will fully live you present!
Reflection
Coaching application
How to manage the client’s and our own expectations as a coach regarding the coaching relationship?
At the beginning of the coaching process, when we establish the coaching relationship with our client, sharing mutual expectations helps establish continuity and trust, agreements and framework for the work that is mutually undertaken.
We need to be aware to commit only to client’s expectations we can manage, expectations that depend only on us, neither on the client nor on external circumstances ie. honesty, respect, safe and non judgmental environment, confidentiality… It will prevent any misunderstanding or disappointment and frustration to our client during the coaching alliance.
It is also important for us as coaches to be clear on our own expectations and evaluate if these expectations are supporting the partnership we are creating with our client or if it would be more beneficial to let them go and engage in this relationship with intentions.
How can we help our clients to shift from a disempowering state of expectations to living with intentions?
Coaching is about helping clients to move forward by supporting them to overcome obstacles, living in the moment, bringing more positive thoughts and beliefs, and hence positive energy into their lives by reframing and shifting their perspective.
How can we help client to get free of disempowering expectations and enjoy the present moment in living with intentions?
A 4-steps process is proposed:
Life is a journey, not a destination! The process of reaching, therefore, becomes more important than the event of arriving
Jagdish Parikh – Managing your self: management by detached involvement
Reflections
References and Inspirations
Visual Thesaurus – www.visualthesaurus.com
Oxford dictionary
Managing your self: management by detached involvement – Jagdish Parikh