Power Tool: Gratification vs. Pleasure

Outline of a PAL system in relation to the AIDA Coaching Model

The PAL Process outlined

The PAL process outlined is intended to assist a Coach with some steps and basic questions to use in the PAL process. Some of the questions are exactly the one needed to be asked and some can be asked in different ways, depends on the process stage and content. This present outline is to give a Coach an idea of how the process works and also how to successfully employ this Power Tool: Gratification vs. Pleasure in this process. The process is built flexible enough to equally allow employment of any other appropriate Power Tool. This process is part of the Ian Kain’s Coaching Model AIDA and since we have outlined it separately, it can be easily utilized with any other Coaching Model as well. In order to save space some questions like for example: What would you do, what would you want to have, where would you like to be if time, money or resources were not in questions? are several questions merged together. A coach need to chunk them down appropriately as necessary and ask them as separate questions, in whichever order is more relevant at the time. Besides powerful questioning, measuring the intensity, the time travel and visualization, working with NLP sub-modalities and other, are very useful tools to use. PAL is dreaming big and in that regard, we need to free the client from present beliefs limitations and set new boundaries of possibilities and potentialities and anchor them strongly. A PAL phrase, is a handful tool for that. If a coach is familiar with Waking Hypnosis or NLP techniques it would be of an advantage. Clients must be advised and consent in advise with the techniques the Coach will be using in the process. This is usually done at the beginning of the session.

The Coaching Model AIDA

The Coaching Model of the Achiever

Acknowledge – Intent – Design – Accomplish

1. Kain, Ian 2015: Should we bypass our brain to get the best out of Life? How to make your brain to work for you?
2. Once we do what our PAL – purposeful and authentic life should be, what we do is not work or a job any more, it become our mission. Time and effort spent with it is not relevant any more. What we do is in perfect alignment with our core values and beliefs.
3. Kain, Ian, 2015: Should we bypass our brain to get the best out of Life? How to make your brain to work for you?
4. Word Hopeium derives from Hope + Opium.
5. Seligman, Martin E. P. (2002-10-02). Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment (Kindle Locations 1730-1739). Free Press. Kindle Edition.
6. A manifestor is a person who is consciously and deliberate manifesting desirable outcome.
7. SMART is also an abbreviation for Specific, Measurable, Action oriented, Relevant and Time based goals.
8. The components of gratification: The task is challenging and requires skill; We concentrate; There are clear goals; We get immediate feedback; We have deep, effortless involvement; There is a sense of control; Our sense of self vanishes; Time stops; Notice a salient absence.
9. Seligman, Martin E. P. (2002-10-02). Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment (Kindle Locations 1971-1977). Free Press. Kindle Edition.
10. The Doorway Spark is the moment of realization, recognition when shift of consciousness and awareness happen. It is a little window where the shift is possible when supported with assistive action. A person might or not choose to go through and it is not a reassuring that the person will make it. It is just a favorable window of opportunity for a person to start a process of upward going spiral.