Every divorce begins with a wedding and ends at the courthouse with an agreement to end the partnership. Clients need information to make good decisions.
One of the most discouraging components of the divorce process for the client is a lack of understanding of the system they are now intimately involved with.
When a divorce coach is part of the team, the client will be educated on the intricacies of the legal system and all that is expected of the parties and how it relates to family law.
The client will learn the questions that need to be addressed. It won’t be a situation where ‘you don’t know what you don’t know.’
When a settlement is being created, there is substantial negotiation in progress. Are you able to effectively negotiate? Can you master negotiation techniques by practicing and perfecting the skill?
Your divorce coach will be there to develop the tools needed to effectively negotiate during the divorce journey. You will learn how to identify priorities – for you and your spouse.
Without effective negotiation skills, you may enter an agreement that was not designed by you. Learn to identify what you want and then negotiate to get it.
Divorce is a challenging time in one’s life. It’s rated as #2 in the list of life stressors. Marital separation is listed as #3.
When clients gain an understanding of how often complicated and stressful the dissolution of marriage is, they are in a better position to understand the need for guidance.
This is a time when clients often embrace gentle persuasion and hand holding with gratitude. This is one of life’s transitions that you do not have to travel on your own.
In the United States, close to 50% of first marriages end in divorce. It’s even higher for subsequent marriages. This sounds like a daunting number and one might expect a significant support system when you join the ranks of the separated/divorced members of your community.
But people faced with divorced often hibernate. They are filled with shame, guilt, anger, rage, jealousy and aren’t prepared to explain their circumstances to their families, friends, neighbors, and colleagues.
They need support. They need to feel they are on the right path and that they will be happy – maybe for the first time. A divorce coach provides the tools and systems for the client to support themselves.
You were married and built a life with your spouse. That life is drawing to a close. A new chapter is morphing.
Can you envision that new life? When you’re ready, you can bring out the clean slate and dream again. You can design your new life, new goals, your new self with the guidance of your coach.
What does it look like? And how do you achieve it? Articulate your goals!
Can you envision your new life? Your coach will work with you to build your new life – one goal at a time.