FLY – Feel and Listen to You

A Coaching Model Created by Alexandra Fay
(Business and Life Coach, SWITZERLAND)

FLY- Feel and Listen to You

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can, and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path. –Buddha

FLY – From the Caterpillar to the Butterfly – A Beautiful Metamorphosis

Human beings usually develop steadily in their lives. However, sometimes there are moments when the client feels like he/she can’t get any further.

I compare the coaching process to the caterpillar’s transformation into a butterfly. It first pupates, then undergoes a transformation, and finally emerges as a beautiful butterfly that flies. From up there it suddenly has a completely different perspective on the same world.

As a professional coach (certified according to the ICF guidelines) I offer the client a continuous partnership. I give him/her the space and time he/she needs to go through that transformation.
In our fast-paced world, it’s becoming increasingly important to have the opportunity to step back and take the time to think about our own lives and the skills we have.

Often, we do carry unconscious beliefs for many years. They prevent us from fully developing our abilities.

I am convinced that everybody has natural creativity in themselves and that the solutions are already there. Through my active listening and asking specific questions, my clients will have the opportunity to get to know themselves better and to go through life with more lightness, confidence, and happiness.

State No. 1 – The Caterpillar – Feel

Most of us are brought up in a limited environment – family, village or city, country, religious community, school, etc. We grow up with certain beliefs, values, and needs. We live our whole life following these ideas which were given to us by others.

Very often we don’t even question if we want to live like this. We go to school, to university, work, get married, and raise our children. We are happy in this world, we do our best – and all of a sudden we realize that we don’t want this anymore because it doesn’t make sense anymore. We feel lonely, worn-out, tired, useless, and sad.

State No. 2 – The Cocoon – Listen

This is the moment when you need somebody who will listen to you. You are aware that something needs to change, and you are not quite clear about what. You feel something is completely wrong, but you don’t know what.

This is the moment when coaching can change your life profoundly. For me, listening is the most powerful skill of the coach. With listening, the coach establishes trust and intimacy, he/her shows the presence, and the questions come at the right moment almost by themselves. The coach can therewith create awareness.

State No. 3 – The Butterfly – You

Thanks to this awareness the client comes back to his inner self. He/she will be able to design actions, plan the future, and set goals for it.

When the client is ready he/she can let go and FLY into the sky.

FLY – What Might Be the Client’s Takeaways From Being Coached?

• The client will have more clarity about the purpose and meaning of his/her professional and/or private life.
• The client will know his/her values better.
• The client will become a better leader for others and for him-/herself.
• The client will improve his/herself awareness.
• The client will gain self-confidence and satisfaction.
• The client will find a deeper connection within him-/herself.
• The client will build constructive relationships with others.
• The client will be able to better connect with his/her needs, feelings, and intuition.
• The client will bring inner peace, lightness, and optimism into his/her life.
• The client will have learned to develop and support him-/herself in the future.

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves. – Buddha