A Coaching Power Tool By Lauren Purse
Transition Coach, NEW ZEALAND
The Criticism vs. Kindness coaching power tool was inspired by my personal decision to treat myself with kindness instead of criticism. I had effectively coached myself, changing my harsh words to compassionate ones, and it had fundamentally altered my perspective. My inner critic was no longer holding me back. Similar to the history of my power tool, many of us critique ourselves first when we run into difficulties coming up with ideas, making decisions, or organizing our actions. We frequently judge and criticize ourselves more harshly than we do other people. Rather than being kind to ourselves at these times, we criticize, which frequently starts a negative thinking loop and makes us feel imprisoned by our inner critic (Walzer, 1987).