A Coaching Model Created by Rania Sabry
(Life Coach, EGYPT)
Happy – as a Child Hero Alive with Pure and Perfect Youthfulness
Get connected to the child in you
If only people understand how to be happy as a child, life would look and feel much better for them and all their problems will be less intimidating to their lives.
When a child is happy, they go to the extreme of happiness. They laugh out loud, play hard, take any opportunity and exert all the effort they can to be happy. They do everything with perfect passion and purity.
A child simple value out of life is to enjoy it unconditionally, they dream big, believe and achieve happiness either in reality or through their wild imagination.
If as a child we can do that, when growing up we can maintain that spirit of a pure and passionate child.
Being a ‘happy’ child is linked to increased well-being in adulthood,
We forget vast amounts of what happens to us in life, but what if we could watch entire lives as they unfold through time? What if we could study people from the time that they were children all the way into old age to see what really keeps people happy and healthy?
Researchers from the University of Cambridge and the MRC Unit for Lifelong Health and Ageing have analysed the associations between having a positive childhood and well-being in adulthood.
The researchers then linked these ratings to the individuals’ mental health, work experience, relationships and social activities several decades later. They found that teenagers rated positively by their teachers were significantly more likely than those who received no positive ratings to have higher levels of well-being later in life, including a higher work satisfaction, more frequent contact with family and friends, and more regular engagement in social and leisure activities. Happy children were also much less likely than others to develop mental disorders throughout their lives – 60% less likely than young teens that had no positive ratings.
The study not only failed to find a link between being a happy child and an increased likelihood of becoming married, they found that the people who had been happy children were actually more likely to get divorced. One possible factor suggested by the researchers is that happier people have higher self-esteem or self-efficacy and are therefore more willing and able to leave an unhappy marriage. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-sa/3.0/
Coaching Application
It will not be an easy battle to fight the habits that you have been building for years, the more you accumulate negative experience and introduce significance, the harder it will get. Yet, the more you had a happy life – which is a highly likely thought – the higher possibility you will get through life in a healthy and well being self
Hero: can do anything and everything
Alive: feeling alive and loving life
Pure: free from any constraining believes
Perfect: free from defaults and defects
Youthfulness: freshness and vitality
Focusing in how happy you once where and wanting to go back to this place with all positive and happy thoughts during a self exploration journey, returning back to the happy self without the need to judge people or self, with a new perspective to life, with understanding more about what made the you happy before and replicate the same experience that gave pleasure to life.
Introducing the lightness versus significance, underlying believes, reframing perspectives, responding versus reacting, and practicing mindfulness to enjoy the present rather than worry about the future. Visualisation will play a big part in the model, bringing happiness and joy from the past, and living the feelings into the present and future. It’s a journey that connects the happy child to the happy adult.